He showed her how to find all the sites which Tom had been visiting. This gave her an insight into his real sexual preferences. From sissyschool to ...fictionmania she learned of his fantasies. Her brother also introduced her to IRC and the chat rooms. From Tom’s favorites and notify lists she also got acquainted with some of his on line friends. Linda met a few Dommes and got into some personal pm’s with them about her problem with Tom. One in particular was very helpful with advice. . Step One: Identity Confusion.“Who am I?” is the major question in this step. People in this stage of the coming out process start to notice their attraction to same-sex people and really question what it means. Am I gay? Am I a lesbian? Am I transgendered? Am I bisexual? Within this stage there may be a denial of inner feelings as a person continues to see themselves as a member of the mainstream, heterosexual population. Some may consider their behaviors as ‘just experimenting’. Some people in. I rolled my window down and he said:“I’ve got a problem Rob. I’ve got a flat tire and no spare.”Before he could say anything else I said, “Gee John; that’s too damned bad” and I drove off leaving them there in the dark and ten miles from the nearest phone.Over the next fifteen years I went to college, found a god job, but stayed single. I dated a lot, got laid a reasonable amount of times, but never found a girl that I wanted to go the full route with. That all changed when the company that I. .. I haven’t ... well ... after IT happened ... I stopped having sex. It’s been way over ten years and then you ... well, me ... you ... you and me ... we did things I haven’t done in YEARS.“I was feeling particularly morose before I decided to cut through your yard and see if I could shake the crowd and do some shopping to make me feel better. Sheldon is fine without me. He’s used to my crazy, unpredictable, schedule. I travel, stay out late with crew and party pretty hard to forget how happy.